hide and seek

he forgot to call? no big deal
By SARI BOTTON the new york times 7/8/07

I did it again and again, choosing guys who were cute and rakishly charming, but who treated me carelessly, even badly. Eventually, when they least expected, I would pull the rug out from under them.

Of course, I was complicit in my misery. No matter how badly my men behaved, I hung around for more. I remained the best, most low-maintenance girlfriend in the world, requiring next to nothing. I would get out of my boyfriend’s way whenever I sensed he needed space — anticipating it so he wouldn’t even have to ask. I would tolerate his negligence, just as my mother had, racking up resentments as ammunition until I couldn’t take it anymore.

thanks k. great article!