Been trying to stop using material things as a salve for my anxiety. Why do I buy more tshirts, tank tops, lotions, random shit just because it’s there? It’s ridiculous and I see myself doing it and I still do it. Along the lines of materialism … one thing that makes me crazy is the concept of a traditional wedding. Marriage … well, the jury’s out on that one as to whether it’s a good idea for a person like me. But a big traditional wedding − that costs hundreds of thousands of dollars and requires friends and family to spend mad cash? NO WAY. I’m less than a month away from turning 33 and I can tell you the amount of dough I’ve spent over the years on other people’s nuptials, homes and children is fairly significant. Meanwhile I live in a rented studio apartment and have like 4 plates bought from Target. No one’s bestowed me with lump sums of money or objects to create a home. It sort of bothers me, but when I step back and look at it, I am happy with my life and choices. And though it’s totes hypocritical after what I just said about material things, I’ve taken a page out of Carrie Bradshaw’s playbook and set up a Wedding registry for myself. Because a chick’s gotta live …
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July 27, 2008 · 8 Comments
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John in IL // July 28, 2008 at 5:14 am
Good for you! I’ve felt that way for a long time. Knowing I won’t be getting married anytime soon, I get a little bitter buying gifts for these bitches (as I take side bets on when they’ll get divorced; bitterness does that to you).
And what the hell is a “Pastry Scraper”? That sounds like all kinds of nasty.
John in IL // July 28, 2008 at 5:16 am
and you’re invited to the wedding when I marry superdave’s neighbor.
superdave524 // July 28, 2008 at 6:40 pm
You’re a funny guy, John.
colio2007 // July 28, 2008 at 9:15 pm
pastry scraper — does sound sick doesn’t it. i think i thought that was a vegetable chopper. it’s amazing to me the stuff people register for. i mean, do you really need kate spade christmas flatware? i would love to attend your nuptials to superdave’s neighbor. it would be quite the party — that’s for sure.
superdave524 // July 28, 2008 at 10:22 pm
Can we have the party and skip the wedding?
kristina // July 29, 2008 at 3:18 am
I have a pastry scraper - it is quite handy for making pie crust AND you can use it to transport chopped things to bowls and pans!
I loved that SATC episode. And that you are showing similar moxie - no surprise there. I was thinking today (after actually meeting a cute guy this weekend for the first time in forever) that I actually DO like being single. I kinda thought so but it’s nice when you realize what you’ve got with your life is actually pretty good.
xo
Kristina
colio2007 // July 29, 2008 at 7:37 am
superdave — i am all in favor of skipping the formalities but let’s not deny john his trophy bride.
kris — great news about the dude. but even better news that you’re loving where you’re at — both a fortunate condition, and a tough/intelligent choice!
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