Quitting is so hard when you’re not a quitter. Everything in you says don’t be weak, don’t quit. But quitting things that aren’t working can be a creative act. An act of self-respect and the first few lines in your next chapter.
I was raised in the Catholic Church, indoctrinated to follow the GOP. Both have been revealed to be utterly toxic. I accept that – I don’t continue to hold on. As an adult I came to grips with it and made the decision to remove myself from both camps.
We look to institutions to help guide us. But when they not only fail to lead, but go further and actively attack us, why should we keep following them? Why should we continue to support and empower them?
Doing so is self-destructive. Doing so is having fealty to a false illusion. A past that was never as rosy as it seemed.
It’s scary to face the unknown. To step out of our comfort zones into the great wide open … but how lucky to have the chance.
I’m surprised at how sad I am about John McCain’s passing. I can’t stop crying. I think I’m not just mourning the man and his ethic of service and sacrifice, but also what feels like the loss of civility, dignity, seriousness and intelligence in American public life.
The Republican Party of my childhood was one of lofty ideals, erudition and egalitarianism. Not without its shortcomings and failures for certain. But back then there were impressive thinkers and leaders who espoused the values of democracy, free markets, personal autonomy, international leadership, and freedom of speech.
Now, with very few exceptions, intelligent people of character and accomplishment have been traded for racists, convicted felons, pedophile sympathizers, reality stars, wife beaters, dopey billionaire donors, and other assorted grifters, miscreants and opportunists.
It has been surprising and disappointing to see people I love follow this fear-mongering, ethically bereft administration convincing themselves that somehow “the ends justify the means.” All the lessons of my life – my religious upbringing, my moral education and the march of history have taught me otherwise.
Rather than dwell on the disappointment of lost illusions, I choose to put my energy into finding positive ways to move forward. One thing I can do is teach my children the power of language, and what real patriotism entails. It’s a tough task, but the rare and shining example John McCain is a good place to start.
“We are citizens of the world’s greatest republic, a nation of ideals, not blood and soil. We are blessed and are a blessing to humanity when we uphold and advance those ideals at home and in the world. We have helped liberate more people from tyranny and poverty than ever before in history, and we have acquired great wealth and power in the progress.
We are 325 million opinionated, vociferous individuals. We argue and compete and sometimes even vilify each other in our raucous public debates. But we have always had so much more in common with each other than in disagreement. If only we remember that and give each other the benefit of the presumption that we all love our country, we will get through these challenging times. We will come through them stronger than before, we always do.”
–Excerpt from John McCain’s farewell letter.
“Make like a tree and let the dead leaves drop.” – Rumi
we can let go of things that no longer serve us. << something i must always remind myself after a lifetime of being “a good soldier.” a loyal daughter/friend/student/team member/employee – and most recently wife & mother – i never want to disappoint the people in my life or feel like i’ve let them down. but to regenerate, create new energy and manifest new things you sometimes must let go of the old.
People confuse the trappings of spirituality with the real deal. True yoga, meditation cannot be merchandised or possessed. Our actions are our only true belongings.
“My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground on which I stand.”
― Thich Nhat Hanh